The meanings that we give to being a man or a woman are significant in how we look at ourselves, and how we perceive and relate with others in the world. Traditionally, the meanings given to gender were predominantly defined by the social roles associated with one’s sex. However, advancements in technology have influenced social fabric in a way that has considerably reduced need for one’s sex to be a significant determinant of these roles. The polarities here are traditional values and new possibilities, for the self and collectives. In other words, our social identity is becoming increasingly gender neutral. This brings in a welcome relief from the traditional stereotypes of gender roles. It is therefore not surprising that many people today feel more comfortable being a ‘person’ rather than being a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’. However, since this transition is not seamless, people also find themselves struggling with values that have been inherited and new ones that are being
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What does loving mean to us?
“So, is the cold war over?” asked he as he turned towards her with a twinkling in his eyes while she joined him in the leisurely evening walk. She looked at the sky, not immediately responding, waiting for him to say something more, then looked into his eyes -which were waiting for an answer to his question. She smiled, “there was no cold war”! He laughed out loud and retorted “Oh, so what has been happening between us for the last two days, is just normal”? She remained silent … not answering immediately, thinking to herself …”what was it that happened?”