>”I seem to see my self from his eyes while i have always possessed theintelligence and politics to know or perhaps i should say interpretwho i am as a woman. But this knowledge i cannot assimilate in me, theexperience is of being in ruin, ………… “ mail from a dear friend to me, in response to an anguished mail sent to her. Says another vivacious, lively, intelligent, perceptive woman, to me, on her first meeting with me as a therapist: ” I am so sorry that I have cried…. I mean this is a first meeting with you and all that”. “Why the shame?” I ask her. “shouldn’t I be calm and composed and not really show my emotions at all? I mean isn’t this what the world wants from me, from you, from all of us?” she responds, albeit a bit surprised that i am even asking her this question. “well you are here to meet a therapist, and you are
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>The other day I was talking to a friend of mine, who is a young talented poet, actor and a writer. We were talking about a post on FB and I asked for her views. Her response was that she felt strongly but she wanted to think before she wrote. I asked her to write about her feelings and not her thoughts and she said she would try, but never did write. Another friend of mine, in her early 30s talked to me about how often she struggles with knowing what her feelings are, i.e. is she feeling angry or is she feeling sad and how important is it for her to “know” her feelings before she responds. These discussions provoked me to write this post about how I come across people, both men and women, who are very cautious about coming across to others as sentimental or mushy. It is as though, expressions of passion, of anger, of love,
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